Going through a separation can be incredibly upsetting, stressful, and worrying. Nobody goes into a marriage expecting it to end in separation, yet an alarmingly high percentage of marriages do end in separation. Nothing will make this process easy to manage, but there are a few important tips to keep in mind which should make the situation easier to manage and help you to come out the other side ready to start a new chapter in your life. Matters are made much more complex when there are kids involved, but hopefully, you will be able to reach a practical solution which works out for all parties.
- Expect A Range Of Emotions
Going through a separation will, of course, always be emotional no matter what the reason is. Sometimes people are surprised at the wide range of emotions that they feel, but this is to be expected. Even if the marriage is ending on bad terms, it is still understandable to have feelings of sorrow because you will have made many happy memories and a life with your partner.
- Find Support
No-one should have to go through a separation alone, so it is important to lean on your support network during this time. In addition to speaking to friends and family, you can also find a lot of helpful advice online and online communities who can provide advice, support, and guidance. Kindness can go a long way among humans, so make sure to take advantage of it from those close to you and those out there online, that might have gone through a similar situation.
- Look After Yourself
It is very easy to neglect your health and wellbeing when going through a separation, but this will only make matters worse. Make sure that you look after yourself by:
- Continuing hobbies
- Socializing with friends and family
- Exercise
- A healthy diet
- Relaxing
- Getting enough sleep
- Avoid Contact With Spouse
Once you have decided that you want a separation, it is best to avoid contact with your spouse as this will only lead to further arguments, emotion, and power struggles. You should also avoid speaking negatively about your spouse to your children if you have any and shield them from any arguments that you have – keep in mind that they will always love both of you no matter what.
- Speak To Mediation Solicitors
It is a smart idea to speak to family mediation solicitors once you have decided to separate. These lawyers will work to help both parties to reach an amicable agreement without the need to go to court. This is the first step towards resolving family disputes and can help to avoid a lot of pain and suffering down the line.
- Moving Forward
It is daunting to start a new chapter in your life, but it is important to think positively during this time. Many people who separate from their partner will go on to flourish and find new joys in life – this might involve:
- Trying new hobbies
- Making new friends
- Traveling to new places
- Taking a class
- Volunteering
- Moving to a new area
Going through a separation will never be easy, but hopefully, the information in this post will help to make the process easier to manage and allow you to take the necessary steps to start building a new life.
